Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Random Advice

I recently read this blog post, which amused me to no end, but I felt that I needed to add my own 2 cents. The blogger is addressing relationship advice she's been given:

1. From my mother: "Never let a man see you put on pantyhose."

Now, I am not one who enjoys wearing pantyhose, but there are times where they are a necessary evil. So I prefer to take as much pain out of the process as possible. So, for the record, I have found a way to put on pantyhose that does not entail such shenanigans so that you actually look like you're making sausage, as she suggests. In fact, if you worked it right, you could make it kinda sexy.

Now this is a trick that few women seem to know, and yet I've found it invaluable over the years. Ready? OK, you know the basics where you scrunch down the hose into the toe and put them on from there. Good. Now for the trick - water. Get your hands wet and just run them up your legs - the nylons will follow, trust me. Try it out - it works.

For more intangible advice, her last thoughts are on "Advice that sounds good but my life has proved totally bogus":

From the old saying: "Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other."

I don't think that's bogus - being able to talk to someone is important. When they say that communication is key, they're not kidding. (That's a lesson you have to keep learning, I think.) And I love having someone around who can finish my sentences and quote movies with me. But more important, and one of those indicators that you know you could spend large amounts of time with this person, is when you don't have to say anything. Those silences that could be awkward but just aren't. The times when you can be with each other, but can still do what you want and not feel bad about it.

This is important for friends, but it's critical for life partners. I'm lucky enough to have experience with this. Because if you constantly have to spend your time entertaining someone else, or pretending like you're entertained, then when are you really going to have any time for yourself? And if you don't have time to be with yourself, then what are you going to have to bring to the relationship table? I'm a firm believer that you need to look for someone to complement you, not complete you. I'm not saying it's easy, but when it works out, man, look out.

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