Friday, October 3, 2008

All We Need Is Love

I'm not one who gets very involved in politics. I have my feelings about issues, but I generally keep those to myself. Mainly because I don't like having someone else's views shoved down my throat. There are certain issues that I get really riled up about, though, and this CA Prop 8 / gay marriage subject is one of them (the other big one is abortion, but we'll leave that for another time).

Last night with the VP debate, both sides "agreed" that gays should not be allowed to marry. What I don't understand is how either side thinks this nation is going to grant equal rights to domestic partners as it does to spouses. It's not a faith issue, it's a legal issue. See, I was a domestic partner for 6 years before I became a spouse. And the differences are huge. They like to pretend like you're entitled to just as much as a domestic partner, I felt shunned more than recognized. If Andrew ever went into the hospital, I wouldn't be able to see him or here what was wrong with him until a blood relative came. And I'm sorry, but I know a hell of a lot more about how he wants to be cared for than the people who haven't been living with him for the last 6 years. How many people aren't close with their blood relatives at all, and instead choose their own family? It's not about homo or hetero, it's about the people you choose to have around you, care for you, and who really know what you want. It should be your choice to bestow legal rights to the people you choose, no matter what gender they are. It's even to the point that companies calling about billing or changes in plans or whatever will not talk to you if you are not a spouse. It got to the point where it was easier to tell them I was the wife instead of the truth. I tried to explain the message would get to him a lot quicker if they told me, but no, I wasn't a spouse, so I couldn't be trusted with their "vital" information. But see, the kicker here is that at least I had the possibility of becoming a spouse. I can't imagine living that way for the rest of my life. I would go insane.

So stop telling me you can draw a line between civil rights and marriage. Because they are not the same. It'll take a lot more reform to give equal civil rights to domestic partners as spouses than to grant same-sex marriage. And how can you say people can choose who they want to be with, but just can't get married? I thought we were supposed to have separation of church and state (yeah right). Why would it be so bad to recognize more love in this world?

I just came across this promo for No on Prop 8 put together by Pixar story artist Adrian Molina in his spare time (you think he has a little opinion on the subject?). It's sweet, and gets the message across better than the gray-haired parents commercial that's been running.

Sorry for the rant. But obviously I had a little opinion on the matter as well!

1 comment:

vivzan said...

I agree with everything that you said. No one is saying get married in a church. Churches want to be against gay marriage? Fine. They really can do whatever they want. Like you said, it's not a faith issue but a legal one.


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