...and what's on the other side?"
I was thinking about what I wanted to write, and connections/reconnections/social networking popped into my head, along with...of course, our favorite green Muppet singing "The Rainbow Connection" (yes, I could have linked to the Muppet Movie version, but who can resist a little Debby Harry?)
This year has been a huge one for me in reconnecting with people. I have Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and this blog to thank for that - in part. But this year I was finally in a position to want to reconnect with people. I made a huge change at the beginning of 2007 in leaving a job in which I can't even explain how miserable I was, and starting the journey of going back to school to finally get a job I can be happy in and be proud of. 2008 held more school, but I finally felt like I was good at something; I was getting comfortable in my new field, and enjoying what I was learning, instead of just being overwhelmed by it, and being afraid I may have made a mistake. I was happy with what I was doing, and therefore excited to reach out to people I hadn't heard from in a long while.
Amongst the many Facebook folks I've gotten back in touch with, I reconnected with a very close friend I had lost touch with 3 years earlier. We lost touch for stupid reasons, and I heard through the grapevine she had left for Afghanistan after Sept. 11th. I had no idea what had happened to her, and I am so happy to hear how she has reinvented her life in the past few years, as I have. After getting over the initial awkwardness of "I was stupid", "no I was", we easily fell back into our previous camraderie (with the periodic, "you don't remember that? oh yeah, that was during our stupid years"). My advice on friendship? If you grow apart, fine, no worries. You have a good reason for not wanting to talk to that person? I understand that. But if you stop talking for some stupid misunderstanding, trust me, it's not worth the pain of worrying about that person, regretting they weren't at your wedding, and that you missed 3 years of sharing your life with that person. Life's too short for being stupid...and stubborn.
I also reconnected with 3 friends from my first job after moving to NYC, who I had known on varying levels at the time. Somehow the fates came together and put me on a last-minute flight to NYC and attending a last-minute rainy "mini reunion". Twitter, Facebook, and email did the rest, and the West Coast Reunion was probably the highlight of my 2008! Ladies, and you know who you are, I don't even know how to put this into words, but I love our crazy online connections, but our in-person ones top it all! How is it that we can go for 10 years without seeing each other, but feel completely comfortable and in-sync in person? (How many people are comfortable hanging out in PJs, having brunch, and playing video games; and then wandering around the city and holeing up in a cafe to have intense conversations for hours on end?) I love it, and we definitely need to get together more often (which is a tad more difficult being 3000 miles apart!). You know you're all always welcome at our house - especially if you can get over your allergies :D - and there will always be good friends, a comfy warm bed, lots of yummy food, and Rock Band awaiting you! And if you ever need anything from us, please don't hesitate to ask!
Tomorrow night we leave to join my family in Tahoe for a few days. My baby sister couldn't come down for the holidays, so we're coming to her. I'm looking forward to some time set aside for just hanging out with the family - even if it is for only 2 days! Yes, we're taking up Rock Band and Wii Fit, as well as cards and snow-gear. I'm sure we won't even get to half of the toys we're bringing up, but I love the idea of enjoying family time. This was the first Christmas the family hasn't all been together - last year was a little different since we delayed it a little, but we were still all able to be together. Being able to be with the family is the big reason I moved back to CA, and I treasure the times we have together.
2008 was a good year. I can't complain (well, I could, but most of it would sound pretty petty). Of course there are goals I have for 2009, but I don't believe in resolutions because inevitably it involves a lot of pressure and guilt, and how is that making yourself feel good? So, even though I know there are some big hurdles awaiting me this year (finding a job being top on that list at this point), I'm excited about what it holds for me and Andrew. A year from now, I hope to look back on 2009 with as much fondness and satisfaction as 2008. I know it won't all be sunshine and rainbows, but it helps to know I have good friends, loving family, two cuddly sweet kitties, and a wonderful husband to help me if I need it.
I wish a happy, healthy, and fulfilling 2009 to all of you!